Survive Your Breakup

Harry works long hours and Joanne doesn’t feel he is there for her. Joanne spends all of her time meeting the children’s needs and Harry feels that she doesn’t have time for his needs. Can this relationship be saved? Is it worth saving? This is how to save a relationship.

To begin you have to decide if the relationship is worth preserving or not. While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work. Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t want to opt back in, there is little that can be done.

Sometimes people stay in a relationship because it is convenient or because of the kids. But that is not enough. How to save a relationship starts with a commitment by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.

Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a relationship. That people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself is one of the biggest problems in how to save a relationship.

For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. Actually, cheating on a partner is a sign of trouble that is more deep. A lack of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse, for instance. Even though most think of the affair as the problem, the real issue is the lack of intimacy in the first place. If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair from starting through the use of guilt, but another problem (for instance pornography) could pop up because you haven’t dealt with the core issue.

When you start to deal with core issues rather than symptoms, you can save the relationship.

Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns. As you discuss these problems, grasp your mate’s hands in yours to show you are interested in reconnecting despite your mixed feelings. When your partner talks about things that hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants to hurt you. It seems that they want to work on improving the relationship.

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After you list the troubles that are present in your relationship, form a strategy to resolve them. Next, make definite steps with your plan of action. Couples who don’t spend much time together need to plan a date night each week. Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday. If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed just talking to one another. The best thing to do is just start.

Lastly, you need to know that relationships take time and effort to preserve. In order to take two steps forward you will probably have to take a step back. Laughter and tears are both along the way. Apologize quickly and be slow to point blame.

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