Cheaters Never Prosper Because No One Profits From Affairs
It happens so much that many people act as if it is inevitable. They see affairs glamorized and excused on television shows. They even call this sleazy emotional backstabbing an affair. They make it sound like a formal ball or major event.
Cheaters leave a trail of evidence. The may tell you the alvarez acoustic guitar was a gift you picked up for your bosses son and he reimbursed you with cash. The digital sport watch she purchased online was for a coworkers birthday party and everyone is contributing. There are new cosmetics in the bathroom along with a selection of bath and body products you have never seen before.
Some worried mates check the cell phone records online daily. Some will routinely check the history trail on the computer. Suspicion increases with mounting changes in behavior like paying more attention to their appearance. Is the Nintendo bundle the most exciting feature of your bedroom?
Or could it be that they are buying gifts for their sex buddy. Sharing your concerns will only produce denials. The cheating spouse will often make fun of your fears or act like you are being horrible for even considering that there is another man. They will lie and enlist friends to validate their alibis.
The cheater will be exposed sooner or later. Then you have to decide if you want to leave or try to stay together. Some couples regroup and move on to share a fulfilling life together. She will have to tell the truth and offer details about her betrayal.
Whatever the response is you will not have an easy time making this relationship work. In the first few days she may be experiencing tremendous relief and appear cooperative. She will need to sever all connections to her lover. She needs to provide you with proof of her whereabouts until you quit asking. She must accept that you will never trust her again. You may forgive her but please do not think you are ever going to accept her word at face value.
She will have a period of weeks or months that the urge to contact her lover will be overwhelming. You will have to insist that she acknowledge your shattered trust. She will have to understand that she will have to be far more accountable to her spouse. This will mean checking in and being checked on.
Together you may be able to overcome this relationship killer but realize that it will not happen overnight. This will take hard work and time to heal properly. Find an effective counselor and try to repair the damage if you value the relationship and especially if children are involved.
