Do Opposite Personalities Really Attract?
Opposites attract. That is, if you are a magnet. However, in terms of relationships, only as far as sexual orientation is concerned. Other than that, the rule hardly applies.
Do you think differences can really lead to divorce? On the other hand, are they just excuses for a change of heart? Let us now look at two couples, John and Victoria who are opposites; and Jason and Christine who are very much like one another.
John and Victoria, when they were introduced at a party, instantly connected to each other. No sooner after exchanging phone numbers, they began dating. Victoria fancied the way John was so adept at the use of computers, which is totally not her. He may be frequently late, but she never minded this. What she focused on was discovering new things about him. Eventually however, and as expected, the early flames of passions soon began to cool down. Known for being punctual, Victoria soon began to be ticked off by Johns lack for regard of time.
Do you think Mike will even have time to think of finding a nice gift to add to Kay’s collection of golf gifts? If they do find the time, one is inclined to doubt its quality. How will Kay enjoy a whole day watching TV, when what she is used to is seeing the greenery and feeling the breeze gently blow her hair she walks through the golf course? In the same manner, how can one expect Mike to enjoy tagging behind Kay as she putts her way to the 18th hole? A solitaire engagement ring ring may not be the future for them.
At the same party, Jason and Christine were also introduced. That was that. However, they ended up seeing each other weekly because of a bowling tournament they joined. Having common friends, they would have coffee before going home. They started having practice games to warm up before the tournament starts. Jason grew to enjoy Christine’s company. They had much more to talk about. Unlike his former girlfriend, Christine shared his love for the sport; and so understood why he spent so much time and money on bowling.
Who do you think will have better chances of eventually rejoicing over early pregnancy signs? John and Victoria who drifted apart because of differences that was too small to notice at first. Or Jason and Christine, who did not really have the same initial attraction but were brought together by their similarities?
For any relationship to flourish, couples need to spend time together. They need to appreciate one another; and know that they are being appreciated too. If you ask me, Jason and Christine will probably have better chances of a long and happy future together.
Everything starts with chemistry. If this chemistry is the initial physical attraction between two people, it must be sustained by common principles and common character traits. Otherwise, it will eventually fade away.
