Survive Your Breakup

So your girlfriend broke up with you and it seems to be over.  What will you do?  If you haven’t stopped loving her you will probably feel totally distraught and want to get her back.

  But if you’re all emotional and messed up, why would she want you back?  It’s really offputting to be around someone who’s very needy and feeling bad.

You probably want to just go to her and gush out how you feel and promise to change, but this would probably be a turn-off for her.  Particularly if the breakup was your fault and she’s not trusting you right now, you will need to do the hardest possible thing – give her space.

Here are the 7 things you must stop yourself from doing straight after the breakup:

1. Try to get your ex-girlfriend to feel sorry for you and take you back, by acting depressed.  That just shows you up as a big Loser;
2. Be unusually nice to her, telling her you love her all the time.  A friend told me an ex once did that to her and because of the way he did it she felt creeped out and wanted to run far away;
3. Tell her that you’ll be different from now on.  Why should she trust what you say?  Don’t you know actions speak louder than words?
4. Buy her romantic gifts, like flowers and jewelry.  My friend’s ex-boyfriend bought a corsage and took it to her workplace. He insisted they go to lunch, with her wearing the corsage.  She felt horribly embarrassed;
5. Make her feel guilty about leaving you;
6. Try to get her to change her mind with hard logic.  Women tend to go with their emotions rather than with rational logic.    Also, the arguments might only seem rational to you, not everyone else;
7. Shut her out completely, wanting her to get upset and come back to you.

Approaching the problem in this way will only send your girlfriend further away from you.

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