How To Survive Infidelity – Pick Up The Shattered Pieces
The act of betrayal can be the cause of a tumultuous activity inside a person’s state of being. Resentment and anger can easily become the cornerstone’s of one’s life, leading to hatred and a lingering bitterness, not only for the offending partner, but for the total of life. To survive infidelity takes a level of being that we are not used to using. We are faced with the overwhelming challenge of self-examination.
This can all be especially painful. But, when we do re-emerge from the sting of betrayal it is possible to be the better for it, with a new appreciation for every component of our lives. That includes the cheating partner and our committed relationship. We can learn how to trust again. Anything is possible.
The road to recovery is a long process. Don’t look for this to happen over night. When faced with the act of cheating, usually the initial decision we make is, “That is it. I’m finished.” Pride is crushed. A tremendous hurt is inflicted. A trust has been crushed.
But, given a little time couples are then faced with making the decision that will completely alter their lives.Not a decision to be made hastily. We come face to face with just how much our partner/spouse and that union means to us. Just how much pain are we willing to endure to keep it alive? The answers to these questions can add a dimension to our lives and being be did not know was possible beforehand. The most crucial key is give all this enough time.
We are a like a miner in a dark shaft trying to discover a way out and if there’s any hidden treasure along the way. Danger lurks at every turn. We do not know if there is way out. There is a call for your our total attention. Something we are not used to giving to anything, ever. Our being will never be the same again. Our lives can never be the same again. Something new is being born, one way or the other. And, birth is always painful.
If you find yourself in this dark remote place of surviving infidelity, I would recommend something drastic. Quit googling for answers online. Put away all the books you have gathered on the subject. Quick listening to family and friends. When everything has been put away, turn inward to yourself and to your partner and begin to ask the uncomfortable questions.
There is really no one now that can save you or your old relationship. Do not rely on someone else’s experience to answer the call of your life. When everything has been put on the shelf, and you begin to ask the right questions, you then have a chance to contact a level of being which is fully capable of giving you the answers you seek. Quite possibly, they may not be the answers for which you hoped. They may not be the answers we hoped to find.
A betrayal has taken place. There is something dramatically wrong that demands our total attention. Perhaps it could be that in this challenge we will discover what is beneath the heart of love and behind the mask of self. It is the journey of a thousand miles, walked on a razor’s edge. Only a few see it all the way through. Only a few arrive. The pain and the anguish give us a ticket to ride.
