Survive Your Breakup

It seems the list of reasons for a relationship blowing up is unending. Sometimes the list of things that irritate or infuriate us is so long it’s amazing that couples ever do stay together. But when you stop looking at every little individual thing, it’s possible to group reasons together, and you’ll find that when you do that, it is much easier to see what to avoid.

The vast majority of all breakups are caused by the following groups of triggers: Avoid these mistakes to stop your breakup.

1. Infidelity

It’s a big one! Relationships require trust to endure, and an exclusive physical bond is usually an important part of cementing that trust. When one of the partners breaks that trust by being intimate with someone else, it’s very difficult to recover from. Even if the relationship survives, there will always be some amount of distrust between you both. Really, if you want to keep your relationship you should never have put yourself in this position to start with.

2. Boredom

Relationships sometimes just become boring. One or both of the partners will realize that they’re no longer having fun in the relationship. The worst part is when two people realize they are still together out of habit, not out of love. Restoring a flame is certainly possible, but when your relationship gets to this point you need to realize that it is going to take some real effort to pick it up and get going again.

3. Too Much Control/Not Enough Freedom

This situation is dangerous for both partners. A controlling partner wants to train someone into their idea of a perfect partner. They need to keep a tight hold on the person because they don’t trust them. It is not easy to be in a relationship where there is no trust. From the other perspective, having a controlling partner is a nightmare. You cannot develop your uniqueness or spend your life in a fulfilling manner. You feel unhappy and smothered. It’s not the end of the road when a relationship goes down this path, but it is very difficult for a controlling partner to give up their control.

4. Conflicts

When you have a partner there are many things you could argue about. One of the top reasons couples disagree is money. Sometimes it’s hard enough to run your own life without having to deal with someone else’s. Couples can argue about anything, from his putting on weight to her choice of restaurant. The list is really endless. Where you find yourselves arguing a lot it’s best to take a bigger picture look and ask if you are arguing about the toilet seat being left up, or whether the true cause of your frustration is something deeper than that.

5. The Little Things

I’m talking about little things that irritate you and become bigger over time. Anything from the way he chews his food to scratching his belly can be annoying and become more so with time. Fortunately, it’s generally easy to work these out. Just take a chill pill and don’t be bugged by them so much. Where that’s not possible let your partner know they are annoying you. They probably have no idea, and with a little conscious effort can stop the offending habit relatively quickly.

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