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Your Ex Won’t Talk to You? 3 Ways to Get Them Talking
When a relationship breaks up it is very common for one of the partners to realize that the feelings they had were much deeper than they realized and that they would be prepared to do just about anything to get back together again.
This can of course be difficult if certain things were said during the break up or if the relationship ended badly. Possibly your ex stopped talking to you and stopped going to the places you went to together, in order to avoid you. If they don’t want anything to do with you it’s very difficult to get communication going again, and you may even have to allow them their cooling off period to show that you respect their wishes for time apart.
But after you have given them a little space, you need to be able to let them know that you still care deeply for them and want to give things another go. Getting from them not talking to you to communicating again is quite sensitive.
1. The simplest way is to call and ask if there’s a time you could meet to catch up. If they don’t want to talk with you at all you can expect a very cool response to that. So remember that, and be ready to make a peace offering. A good place to start would be by saying you have some things you would like to apologize for, and ask if they would like to meet for coffee.
2. If you fail with the direct approach you could use the help of a go-between. Take care with this, as it can feel really bad to be caught between two friends. Find a friend that both you and your ex trust, and tell them how much you want to be back with your ex. Ask them if they would mind having a quiet chat with your ex and seeing if there is any way you can make up your former mistakes. And then let it alone. Don’t keep contacting your friend, and don’t expect them to call you the following day. In fact, you should make it clear to them that they are not obliged to help you – you are asking a big favor. You be absolutely honest with them, letting them know that your goal is to get your relationship back. Don’t try and play it cool – the time for that is passed.
3. If that doesn’t work out, write a letter to let them know how you’re feeling and thinking. Be sincere, and don’t get long-winded. When it is done let it sit for 24 hours then read over it again and make sure it says exactly what you want it to. The thing with a letter is making sure it gets to the right person and gets opened. Deliver it in person, and tell them you are sorry for the hurt you caused. Apologize and ask them to read the letter and let you know if there’s any way you can make it up to them.
When you are trying to re-open communication with an ex you have to be sincere, and understand that you could possibly be rejected. Don’t constantly pester them, but rather give them some space and let them know you will be ready for them whenever they are prepared to give things another shot.
Speak with your ex now. If these techniques haven’t worked, don’t worry. Check out Win Back Love: How To Get Back The Love Of Your Life, by Annalyn Caras, for a complete step-by-step blueprint to get your ex back.