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There are few people in the world who are 100% satisfied with all of their interpersonal relationships. Virtually everyone has some person, or some kind of relationship (with friends, family, or lovers for example) that we want to improve. Understanding the difference between influence and control when it comes to how your relationships play out is the first step in improving any and all of your relationships. Let’s see why.

Every time you interact with someone, you influence them, and they influence you. Think about it. Every response you make to another person influences them. What specific effect our interaction may have can vary, but every time with interact with anyone, both of us are affected in some way. Even if (particularly if) you completely ignore someone, that lack of response affects the way the other person things and feels. If you’re going to master the fine art of having great relationships, you need to get it firmly embedded in your head that every single interaction you have with a person affects them in some way, and affects you too.

Then there’s control. If you think about this one, you really have no control over anyone else. You may have all sorts of ways to try and get someone to do what you want (to influence their behavior), but you can’t control them. You can’t make them do something if they really don’t want to do it. So you influence someone whenever you interact with them, but you can never force them to do anything.

Too many of us try to control others and force them to do what we want them to do, instead of influencing them to want to do what we want them to. You can’t force someone to be your friend. If anything, even trying to do so will likely influence them negatively. But at the same time, if you interact with them properly, every interaction can be a positive influence toward getting them to want to do what you want them to. If we learn to influence people better, our relationships will surely be better and we’re more likely to get a result where both parties are happy than trying to control everything is going to get you. The most successful people grasp the difference between influencing an relationship and controlling it, why is a major part of why they are successful people.

The difference between influence and control is only a fraction of what you will learn in the Relationship Mastery portion of the Law to Success Mastery program. If you would like to learn more, please visit the Law to Success Mastery Program Review at http://TheLawToSuccess.com/