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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipBest Selling Author, writes… …

For many dating is a scary game. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives before you get disillusioned by the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing where everyone wins. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are only winners

Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. Simple, and sheer innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Where did it go? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns, you become very attractive. You become a magnet to your desires.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. The fear of failure is very human Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give.] Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expections and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.

2. Do you have a case of the not-enoughers?

You feel that you’re just not good enough on some level. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.

Playing a game is a very differnt approach to dating. Play with self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The high energy of fun is attractive and magnetic. Let go. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

Are you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right? Are you ready to get back into the dating after your divorce? Then you’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s not a sport or a hobby for you. Most likely you’re looking for interesting conversation with another compatible person. Someone with whom you can share good conversation, fun activities and match up on a number of similar interests.

Whether you’ve just ended a long term relationship, are seeking your soulmate, or are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, it’s time you consider dating consciously.

Would you like to get clear about what you want and then zero in on attracting fun dating companions?

Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?

You can make a fun game of it and I’ll show you how — to find a really fun and loving relationship.

Is your curiosity peaked?

Of course it does!

I’ve encapsulated my tried and true Law of Attraction approach of winning the dating game. It’s called Dating Consciously. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Dating Consciously designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of getting what you really want, whether that’s attracting your soul mate or just having fun dating.

In the first of this Dating Consciously Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game. Dating is a GAME!

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: An activity where you compete it involves endurance or skill on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, for your own interest or for the interest of observers.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, why do it?

For many, the second definition kills the joy and has you sitting on the sofa Saturday nights. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Curiously enough, these are precisely what you want to stay away from when dating.

FIVE Things To DO When Dating

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. You played all day long when you were a kid. How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just pure fun! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they aren’t playful.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is very contagious. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will consciously look for reasons to feel good and laugh. Smile a lot. At the waitress or waiter, at the host. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. She’s got a nervous giggle. He makes noise when he eats. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Don’t worry, you never have to go on a second date. This is an important practice, however, and it is an intimacy builder. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven’t interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Ask for what you want and chances are, you’ll get it. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Real Relationship Solutions for Real People

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Looking for and finding love doesn’t have to be the difficult task most people think it is.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find your ideal partner if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what actions you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step There are three crucial points to successful partnership chemistry. Attraction or chemistry is not about how attractive you look, having the perfect come on lines, or making the right moves. I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off. There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like. When you know what you want, exude the essence of what it feels like to already have it, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve. Let me explain these steps more clearly. 1. Decide on What You Want. We now know that everything is energy. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first an idea. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and offers a strong intention to yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe, maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. You can be clear about what you want and get it. Go for it and make a comprehensive list of what you want. 2. How will it feel when you have what you want? To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when … 3. Let Go of the How and When. Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go of how and when, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves. Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

Solid Relationship Solutions

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Looking for and finding love doesn’t have to be the challenging burden most people think it is.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find your ideal partner for you if you follow these steps.
What you want in your ideal partnership relationship will determine what approach you take to find him or her.
Whether you want ease without commitment or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three crucial points to successful partnership chemistry. Attraction or chemistry is not
about how attractive you look, saying all the right things, or being smoothe.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you get clear on exactly what you want, exude the essence of what it feels like to already have it, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.

Let me explain these steps more clearly.

1. Know what you want.
We now know that everything is energy. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessarily choose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go of how and when, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.

Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… Contrary to accepted love advice that’s out there on the internet, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to make a bad first impression and send her packing.

Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The love advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.

It’s more prevalent than ever for a real woman to speak his mind and communicate openly from her heart. The ability to openly communicate is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Women the most important thing to know is what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What’s important to you? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is he funny, does she think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Ms. Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you’d be surprised on how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you remain in the inquiry of ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

4. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also resisting what you want, which does nothing for the attractor factor.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you are really clear on you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

Real Relationship Solutions for Real People

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …

Looking for and finding love doesn’t have to be the challenging burden most people think it is.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
What you want in your ideal partnership relationship will determine what approach you take to find him or her.
Whether you want ease without commitment or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not
about looking good, saying all the right things, or making the right moves.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you get clear on exactly what you want, play with the feeling of how it feels to already have what you want, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.

Let me explain these steps more clearly.

1. Know what you want.
The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. You can be clear about what you want and get it. Go for it and make a comprehensive list of what you want.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Your only job is to feel good all the way to having him or her show up. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.

Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… Contrary to popular relationship advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one sure-fire way to make a bad first impression and have her looking for the door.

Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, asking you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.

It’s more prevalent than ever for a real man to express her feelings and communicate openly from her heart. The ability to openly communicate is a prized attribute and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or your life partner, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Relationship Advice for Dating the most important thing to know is what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is she funny, does she think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when [she’s.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you remain in the inquiry of ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.

4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

When you’re looking, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… Contrary to widely held love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your date a series of interview questions is one way for certain to turn him off and send her packing.

Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.

It’s more acceptable these days for a real man to express his feelings and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.

Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Love Advice for Women the most important thing to know is what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What’s important to you? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is he funny, does she think you’re funny? Is it important to you that she likes sports? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? What are the elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Mr Right.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.

4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

When you’re looking, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.

Real Relationship Solutions for Real People

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

Looking for and finding love doesn’t have to be the challenging burden most people think it is.
Though it may seem that way at times, I can assure you that you can find your ideal partner if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what actions you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step There are three crucial points to successful partnership chemistry. Attraction or chemistry is not about how attractive you look, saying all the right things, or being smoothe. I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off. There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like. When you know what you want, play with the feeling of how it feels to already have what you want, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve. Let me explain these steps more clearly.

1. Decide on What You Want. The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. All things in existance started out as an idea. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and makes a very clear statement to yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. And you did choose. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “gee, I don’t know, maybe yes, maybe no.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Go for it and make a comprehensive list of what you want.

2. How will it feel when you have what you want? To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let Go of the How and When. Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Your only job is to feel good all the way to having him or her show up. From there, you'll be motivated to inspired action. Circumstances and events will shift to the right person. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves. Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass

Practical Relationship Advice

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Though it may seem that way at times, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
What you want in your ideal partnership relationship will determine what approach you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not about how attractive you look, saying all the right things, or being smoothe. I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off. There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like. When you get clear on exactly what you want, exude the essence of what it feels like to already have it, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve. Let me explain these steps more clearly.

1. Decide on What You Want. We now know that everything is energy. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and makes a very clear statement to yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessarily choose. But choose we did. We run on the familiar or safe setting that sounds something like… “gee, I don’t know, maybe yes, maybe no.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Go for it and make a comprehensive list of what you want.

2. Imagine how it will feel when.. To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she tells you how much she appreciates you, when he brings flowers home just because. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …

3. Let the Universe Handle the Details. Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, to be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves. Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass