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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …

I’m frequently asked how to find love when there’s been so much failure in the past. Here are a couple of your burning questions and my Law of Attraction coaching answer to them.

1. I’m in my mid-40’s. I’m just about to give up on love. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.

If you’ve been asking and it’s not been forthcoming, there’s only one reason. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. When you find out what that belief is, do whatever it takes to soothe yourself about it. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How do I bring in the certainty in receiving? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Practice frequently. It takes repetition to learn a new habit.

By the feeling state, I mean engaging all of the senses by imagining what it will be like when … … the love of your dreams shows up … you plan a surprise gourmet picnic for him … you giggle at the inside jokes you both share … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …

I’m frequently asked how to find love when there’s been so much failure in the past. Here are a couple of your burning questions and my Law of Attraction coaching answer to them.

1. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m in my mid-40’s. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.

If you’ve been asking and it’s not been forthcoming, there’s only one reason. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. When you find out what that belief is, do whatever it takes to soothe yourself about it. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Every day, several times per day.

By the feeling state, I mean engaging all of the senses by imagining what it will be like when … … the love of your life comes to stay … you plan a fun weekend getaway for her … you giggle at the inside jokes you both share … you sing songs in the car on a road trip etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …

I get asked questions about how to find love , the kind of love that lasts. Here are a couple of your burning questions and my Law of Attraction coaching answer to them.

1. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m in my mid-40’s. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.

If you’ve been asking and it’s not been forthcoming, there’s only one reason. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. When you find out what that belief is, do whatever it takes to soothe yourself about it. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. How do you work on the positive expectancy, the believing, knowing, the certainty? One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Practice frequently. It takes repetition to learn a new habit.

By the feeling state, I mean engaging all of the senses by imagining what it will be like when … … the love of your dreams shows up … you plan a fun weekend getaway for her … you hold hands and tell jokes … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

I get asked questions about how to find love , the kind of love that lasts. I thought I’d share some of the frequently asked questions and the Universal Law of Attraction model answer.

1. I’m in my mid-40’s. I’m just about to give up on love. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

Don’t give up. It’s NEVER too late. Make it your dominant intention to find out what belief you hold that stands between you and being a magnet for love.

Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you ask, and it’s not coming, you have a dominant belief or vibration about it being difficult. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. Look for whatever that limiting belief is and work with a coach to soften and shift that belief. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How do I bring in the certainty in receiving? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. How do you work on the positive expectancy, the believing, knowing, the certainty? One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Every day, several times per day.

Play with the energy of make believe and feel it as real. How will you feel when… … the love of your dreams shows up … you plan a surprise gourmet picnic for him … you giggle at the inside jokes you both share … you sing songs in the car on a road trip etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your expectation frequency into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Appearance Aren’t Everything,” we’ll take a closer look at the visual side of appearance. Here are the results from a survey taken by a popular dating. The most important attributes in a mate

• Personality 30%
• Sense of Humor 14%
• Smile 12%
• Looks 11%
• Eyes 10%
• Hair 7%
• Education 7%
• Physique 5%
• Career 3%
• Popularity 0%

As you can see, Personality rated top, overwhelmingly!

What does that say about a person? It says that personality is a desirable trait from either person’s point of view.

Appearance is often categorized as an external representation of a person. But as you can see, Personality was rated number one. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Self-confidence. The ability to relax and enjoy in a easy and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Knowing what you want.

2. Self-assurance.

3. Knowing you’re worthy of what you want.

4. Poise.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Many people I know getting back into the dating game get stopped with the externals of the game.

The internal dialog stops you from ever getting back into circulation: “I’m no longer a spring chicken,”"I can’t compete with the hotties,”"The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Feeling confident, being ready to shine, always having a ready, genuine smile, will make all the difference. Realize that you don’t have to do the singles thing. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Why not write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Gain super power by taking on that it’s your job to feel joy and confidence. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. We play to have fun, to explore and expand our nature. I wish you many fun adventures!

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …

I get asked questions about how to find love , the kind of love that lasts. Here are a couple of your burning questions and my Law of Attraction coaching answer to them.

1. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m in my mid-40’s. If I haven’t met a good one by now, will it ever happen?

If you can desire it, you can achieve it. Find out what belief you have, what story you’re telling yourself that’s not true and make it your business to shift that belief.

Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you want a love relationship and you keep getting duds, there’s a mismatch in your beliefs. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. When you find out what that belief is, do whatever it takes to soothe yourself about it. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.

2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Practice frequently. It takes repetition to learn a new habit.

Play with the energy of make believe and feel it as real. How will you feel when… … the love of your life comes to stay … you plan a surprise gourmet picnic for him … you giggle at the inside jokes you both share … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your vibration into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author, writes… …

Here are some dating tips and insights to help you get back into the game, especially if you’re dating after divorce. In the last of our series on Dating Consciously, “

Appearance Aren’t Everything,” let’s talk about the all important external part of appearance. Here are the results from a survey taken by a popular dating. Choose the most important features of a partner

• Personality 30%
• Sense of Humor 14%
• Smile 12%
• Looks 11%
• Eyes 10%
• Hair 7%
• Education 7%
• Physique 5%
• Career 3%
• Popularity 0%

Personality ranked Number 1 by a long shot!

What does it say about the dater and the datee? It says that personality is a desirable trait from either person’s point of view.

Appearance is often categorized as an external representation of a person. Personality, self-confidence, an engaging attitude, warmth and authenticity are the traits that win out over Physical Appearance. So many of us are hung up on physical appearance, we get stopped before we get started.

What are characteristics of personality? Self-confidence. The ability to communicate openly in a outgoing and engaging manner. What are inherent traits of self-confidence?

1. Knowing what you want.

2. Feeling assured that what you want is within your reach.

3. Knowing you’re worthy of what you want.

4. Poise.

What I’m pointing to is the non-physical aspects of ‘Personality’. An engaging personality has little to do with physical appearance. Dating for many people gets difficult when you’re focused on the externals.

The internal dialog stops you from ever getting back into circulation: “I’m no longer a spring chicken,”"I can’t compete with the hotties,”"The singles scene seems so superficial.”

Feeling confident, being ready to shine, always having a ready, genuine smile, will make all the difference. Realize that you don’t have to do the singles thing. Don’t limit yourself by what others are saying.

From the perspective of a Law of Attraction Coach, the essence of what you emanate is attracted or drawn right back to you. If that’s so, (and it IS) doesn’t it makes sense to get dressed with a smile before you go out of the house? It becomes a matter of practicing the traits of self-confidence; being clear about what you want, the ability to have it, knowing your worthy of what you want, and being calmly expectant that the timing is all in perfect order.

“To be in the Dating Consciously mode, you need to ENERGETICALLY dress for success”.

To win the dating game, you want to remember it’s your choice. So choose it to be fun.

Why not write a little summary of an after-the-fact successful date. Write as though the date already happened and you’re really pleased with the outcome. If you don’t have any dating prospects, script a pleasant outcome from a trip to the library or coffee shop. You’re creating your entire life by your beliefs and your thoughts, so why not get creative and deliberate about it. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Your enjoyment of life is directly related to how you perceive every event, situation or outcome. It’s not always easy to see that our interpretation of an event is what makes it good or bad. Gain super power by taking on that it’s your job to feel joy and confidence. Nobody else has the power to make you feel bad or good, for that matter. It’s always an inside job.

Remember, dating is a game. Relationships are a game. Games are meant to be fun and a win-win for everyone! And remember to enjoy the journey.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …

Are you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right? If you’re dating after divorce and it’s time to get back into the mainstream again, Then you’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s most likely not your favorite past time. Most likely you’re looking for some meaningful contact with another like-minded individual. Someone with whom you can find a common ground with, and enjoy good dialog.

Whether you are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, want to find the love of your dreams, or just ended a long term relationship, it’s time you consider dating consciously.

What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene

Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?

You can make a fun game of it and I’ll show you how — to find a really fun and loving relationship.

Does any of this sound good to you?

Of course it does!

I’ve encapsulated my tried and true Law of Attraction approach of winning the dating game. It’s called Dating Consciously. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Dating Consciously designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of getting what you really want, whether that’s attracting your soul mate or just having fun dating.

In the first of this Dating Consciously Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game. Dating is a GAME!

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: An activity where you compete it involves endurance or skill on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, for your own interest or for the interest of observers.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.

For many, the latter definition contains elements that take the FUN right out of the pursuit of dating. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Curiously enough, these are precisely what you want to stay away from when dating.

FIVE Do’s for Dating

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No agenda, no comparisons. Just easy play! If your date is the somber type, make it your priority to have fun. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they aren’t playful.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is very contagious. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will consciously look for reasons to feel good and laugh. You’re not fully dressed unless you wear a smile. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don’t like the way he slurps his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Don’t worry, you never have to go on a second date. This is an important practice, however, and it is an intimacy builder. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, this is an excellent practice in general with all relationships.

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. Ask for the same attention, if you’re not getting it. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Ask for what you want and chances are, you’ll get it. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

Whether you’re in your 20’s or 70’s, dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.

First, let’s define the word GAME…

1. Game:An amusement or pastime.

2. Game: An activity where you compete it involves endurance or skill on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, for your own interest or for the interest of observers.

The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.

But, if it’s not fun, why do it?

For many, the second definition kills the joy and has you sitting on the sofa Saturday nights. Those elements are:

Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!

Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.

FIVE Things To DO When Dating

1. Play. Simple as it may seem, most people don’t think of dating as play. You played all day long when you were a kid. How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just pure fun! Even if your date is a serious type. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see them again if they aren’t playful.

2. Laugh. A cousin of play, laughter is very contagious. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will deliberately find ways to feel good and laugh. Smile a lot. At the waitress or waiter, at the host. Just smile for no reason.

3. Listen. This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don’t like the way he slurps his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Don’t worry, you never have to go on a second date. Being present is important and will go a long way in building intimacy later on. Adopt this quality in your long term relationships by practicing now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world

4. Eye Contact. Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.

5. Communicate. When it’s your turn to share, confidently offer your ideas. Expect the same attention. Ask for the same attention, if you’re not getting it. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Just kindly ask for what you’d like. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.

Whether you’re in your 20’s or 70’s, dating – just like life – when enjoyed with lightness and ease, where there are no stakes at all, there’s no anxiety and everyone can win.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipExpert, writes… …

Lots of people get back into the dating game with trepidation. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to get clear on your intentions before you get disillusioned by the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s keeping you from having fun and success in dating?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of The Game that’s supposed to be fun with no losers. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are no winners or losers

Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. It was just plain and simple fun.. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Why have so many of us lost it? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with limiting beliefs, you become very attractive. You’re energy is literally calling out to like energy to play with it.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. Fear of failuse is a common experience Almost everyone has had failed relationships. You’re not alone there. It doesn’t mean anything about who you are. It’s just something that happened. You would grant anyone of your friends the space to move on after a relationship that didn’t work out. Considering that failing is just making room for a new experience. Play and be present. [Show up intending to have fun and learn something new, not to prove how great you are or how broken you are.

2. Do you feel ‘less than’?

You feel that you’re just not good enough on some level. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” You’ve just consciously sent intentions ahead of you.

Playing with passion and purpose is a simple way expand who you are in the moment. Play with self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The vibration of FUN is one of the highest around. Laugh and have fun. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction RelationshipBest Selling Author, writes… …

For many dating is a scary game. In the first installment of Dating Consciously, the dating advice I shared was I asked … “What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives before you get disillusioned by the dating scene”? I also said that “Your thoughts create your reality and if that’s so, wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?”

In Part Two, I’ll go more deeply into the aspects of playing where everyone wins. Play with Passion and Purpose. Dating is a game you can re-write the rules at any time. To play the Dating Consciously game, you need to know that:

1. You are playing a game

2. You willingly remember that it’s going to be fun (because you created it as a game for that purpose), and

3. There are only winners

Remeber when you played tag or hide and seek? You could play for hours and hours. Simple, and sheer innocence. Try to access that innocence just for a moment right now.

Where did it go? In the previous paragraph notice how quickly it returned – if just for a moment – but it did return! You create that kind of ease and joy by simply remember it into being. You pretend it into existence, you play it into reality for the sake of playing. And guess what? Your energy shifts so quickly to that light and high vibration, that unless you negate it with old patterns, you become very attractive. You become a magnet to your desires.

The 2 Biggest Stoppers to Dating Consciously

1. Fear of failure/rejection

2. Fear of looking bad/not enough

1. The fear of failure is very human Try on innocence and play full out. Just try it and see how different it feels. Nobody is out to take something from you that you’re not willing to give.] Certainly, there may be different expectations from your date. There’s nothing wrong with that. Simply and clear communication can handle that. Believe me, you’re going to have different expections and points of compatibility. If you didn’t, you’d get awfully bored of that person in a very short period of time. If you decide that you only wanted one play date, so be it. There’s no inherent rejection involved. It’s just a choice on how you or he/she prefers to spend their time. It’s just a choice not a rejection.

2. Do you have a case of the not-enoughers?

You feel that you’re just not good enough on some level. Consider that at the core, everyone has that ancient internal conversation, too. Most everyone at times feels low in self-confidence. You’re not alone here.

Do your best to remain present and on your purpose is to have fun. Think of it as an exploration. “What’s something new can I learn about myself or my date?” Now you’ve just paved an energetic pathway for your date.

Playing a game is a very differnt approach to dating. Play with self-expression with the focus on having fun. Purpose means deliberating intending what you’re up to. The bottom line is HAVE FUN.

The high energy of fun is attractive and magnetic. Let go. You’ll become a magnet for fun people and if you keep practicing that, eventually you’ll attract the perfect fun mate.

You can learn these tools and more with Relationship Coaching. Dating, like life, if approached as a fun game where there are no losers goes much more smoothly for everyone.