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In long-term relationships, it is so easy to be stuck in a rut with your spouse or significant other and while this may be ‘comfortable’, it can make your sex life a little ordinary. However, by mixing it up and using these tips, you can revive that spark that first brought the two of you together. Here are a few pointers to ponder.

Sex Tip 1: Treat yourself

It is not possible to have great sex if you do not feel sexy. So splash out and treat yourself to a new aftershave or some new lingerie, whatever is needed to put a spring back into your step.

Sex Tip 2: Flirt with each other

Send your partner playful, sexy messages throughout the day. Build up the anticipation by telling him what you are wearing and what you want to do to him later.

Sex Tip 3: In the mood

Do not undervalue the power of lighting a few candles. Make sure your bedroom is sexy and does not have toys, laundry or paperwork littering it.

Sex Tip 4: Just kiss

Agree to place a ban on sex for a certain length of time and just kiss and focus on foreplay. Abstention from sex has the added benefit of charging you both up.

Sex Tip 5: Surprise!

Do not wear any underwear and let him/her find out.

Sex Tip 6: Watch a sexy film together

It does not have to be porn for it to be sexy. Some favourites are Nine and a Half Weeks, Body Heat and Last Tango in Paris.

Sex Tip 7: Buy a new toy

Nothing spices up a dull sex life like a new adult toy. Begin your search at sites like LoveTheRabbit.com where you’ll find the best pearl rabbit articles, information, raves and reviews and links to the stores that stock them. Shopping together online for something sexy and the anticipation of your package’s arrival will create a new ‘buzz’ in your bedroom.

Sex Tip 8: Change position!

Go to Google – type in ’sex position’ then click on ‘Images’ – I guarantee you that something will catch your eye – enough said!

Sex Tip 9: Fantasy Island

A little role-playing can be fun and do not limit yourselves to the bedroom. Start having fun before you even get home – meet at a restaurant or bar and pretend you just met.

Sex Tip 10: Get out of the bedroom

Sometimes a change of locale is all that’s needed to spice up the action. Try having sex somewhere out of the ordinary; in your spa or swimming pool late at night, in the back of the car… just be careful – because you don’t want to be caught!

If any of the ideas makes you feel jittery – then that is the one ‘adventure’ you ought to try first! The great part of being with someone for an extended period is that you can fully trust and feel safe with him or her, so do not hesitate to try something out of your normal comfort zone, especially when you know it is going to spice your sex life right up!

Do you want to buy a fleshlight? If the answer is no, then, maybe the answer should be yes. Whether you’re in a relationship or you’re flying through this world solo, fleshlights will make your world a better one.

For years the sex toys industry, operating inversely to the real world, has been marketed and geared towards women. There is probably a dissertation in why sex toys have been marketed and manufactured almost exclusively towards women over the past 20 years, but for now we’ll just acknowledge the point and move on. Chad Chunglo, the co-founder of TooTimid.com, understands where the industry’s main market is, “92% of the products that leave our dock everyday are geared towards women, 70% of which are bought by women between the ages of 25 and 45.”

It’s a strange state of affairs that it’s taken until the end of the milleniums first decade for the industry to spot such a huge gap in the market. Men. Men are known, be it right or wrong, as sex crazed maniacs. Well we certainly do think about sex, I’m sure we all agree on that one, and yet as a gender we’ve never really explored our own solo sexuality. Girls have been discussing ths stuff over glasses of wine and nail painting sessions for millennia, maybe we should talk about it to, but in a more manly way obviously.

Maybe we could talk about our new set fleshlight cases and how they make us feel like a sexual warrior, but we wouldn’t be sipping on wine or painting our nails, we’d be in the changing rooms before a game of rugby (or American “football” for our US readers). We could discuss the many different fleshlight inserts available to make our marathon sessions massaging our man pump feel all the more realistic. We should pat each other on the back, beat our chests, chant, and shout about how we’re free from the constraints of sexual frustration. We don’t need liars, cheats and mercenaries! WE CAN DO THIS OURSELVES.

Work isn’t something most people look forward to. Long days are broken by the occasional joke over what was on TV last night and a lunch of miserable proportions. The mind is prone to wandering in an environment so lacking in stimulation. How’s a girl supposed to get through the day with so little to look forward to during your daily tasks? Concentration isn’t easy when your mind is running rings around your sensibilities.

Why no let your inhibitions slide away? While at work, you could be secretly having a wild time and no one needs to know about it. You’ll have to be daring, dashing, fast and discreet, but if youwanted to, you could get your rocks off under the desk while you send that letter to your boss.

The Lelo Nea black pearl is probably the most discreet option you could choose. It’s a beautifully designed clitoral stimulator small enough to carry on your person at all times. When I say on your person, I mean literally. This tiny delight can stay in your knickers all day and no one need know about it. It’s got various speeds, go hell for leather or have a prolonged daytime experience, it’s entirely up to you. If it’s not for you, there are plenty of clitoral stimulators to choose from, but in times as turgid as these you should indugle in your lusts where you can. Give them a go.

Of course you don’t have to be discreet about it. If you’ve got a handbag why not just carry a piece that could have put Marilyn Monroe on the moon? Slightly larger than the Lelo Nea is the pocket rocket vibrator, it packs a punch powerful enough to get you off in 30 seconds. Despite it’s knee melting power the pocket rocket vibrator is as quiet as a mouse!

There are options on, or under, the table. So don’t let your spirit be broken.You’ll just have to be daring enough to try it, go forth and seek thrills. They’re all there for the taking.

In times of recession, people stay inside and that results in an upwards trend in sex; Durex are having a bumper year in sales. With less and less money being spent on going out, people are staying in and riding out the recession indoors, maybe it's about time you joined the party.

It's time to invest in making your nights much more exciting. There are plenty of sex toys on offer to spice up your life between the sheets. When people think of sex toys they often think of seedy clubs, private shops, brown paper bags and long overcoats, but it's time to shake free from the shackles of 19th century opression and step into the 21st century. If you've been slow out the starting blocks it's time to start sprinting.

If you're not too keen on going to the highsteet to buy your vibrator then you needn't worry, there are plenty of online solutions to wet your appetite. It’s not just for women – there are now plenty of sex toys for men to choose from, vibrating cock rings, fleshlights, and some things you never knew existed.

If you do decide to venture out to a sex shop, take your partner with you and try your new toy together that night; you'll learn what you like and what you don't for the next time you visit. Here's some top tips on what to look for in a vibrator:

• Get a vibrator that has more options than an iPhone - the more buttons the better.
• Get a variety of sizes, you never know when you might want to get yourself off - at work, at home, in a queue.
• If your vibrator must be small, make a fast and furious small one. Discreetness might be top of your agenda but your pocket rocket has got to be able to step up to the plate when you need it.
• There are so many options out there for you to choose from that you'll probably be dazzled, but whatever you do, just make sure you're have fun.