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There are many misconceptions out there about the use of adult toys in relationships.  Some people feel that they cannot compete with something that does not get tired, or sore.  Those people feel that a sex toy is going to be there replacement and that they will not be as desirable to their partner.

The truth is the best intimacy comes between two people that care for each other.  There is nothing that can replace the physical, emotional, and spiritual connections made during intimacy.As much fun as sex toys can be in the bedroom, the toy is not able to cuddle with you, read your signals during intimacy, provide any foreplay on it's own, or give any pillow talk.

The reason sex toys are beneficial are they promote communication between the couple.Sex toys can really spice up the bedroom with excitement and adventure to the point it can feel like the first time again.  When used properly, adult toys can promote the growth and understanding of each other’s intimate needs.

There are thousands of sex toys available today, you are sure to find something to add the extra spice in the bedroom … or kitchen table.Whether vanilla or starburst, there are many toys that can enhance your relationship and bring it to the next level.  You have many options when looking for toys.  There is no need to visit, “that” store off the highway exit.  You can shop discreetly online, you can host a home party with your friends and get a chance to see, feel, touch, and taste the different toys, creams, edibles, and more in the comfort of your own home.

So before you dismiss the use of a sex toy, know that they are not meant to replace anything, they are only meant to enhance you and your partner’s intimacy and adventure in the bedroom.

Thanks for reading, and happy playtime!

So where is yours hidden? Is it in your knicker drawer? At the back of the bathroom cabinet? Is it hiding under sweaters in your wardrobe? Or is it hiding in a sock in your tallboy?

Storing vibrators can be quite tricky. Firstly you’ll want to hide your toy so that it is not accindetally found…

Your next priority should be to store your vibrator in such a way that it doesn’t become damaged. This applies especially if your new vibe is going to join other toys of different materials that may (or may not) react well with one another. Vibrators are also motorised objects that contain some metal parts so correct storage of your playmate is important.

Here are a few tips about storing your vibrator:

Don’t store your toys in direct sunlight (as if!) & remove all the batteries so that they don’t rust the metal parts of your vibrator. Leaving the batteries inside your vibrator also wears the batteries down and therefore shortens their life.

Always store your sex toys in a dry place – moist places such as cupboards under bathroom sinks for example – can be damp and thriving places for bacteria to grow. In addition to this, the metal battery strips in the vibrator’s ‘tube’ don’t mix well with moisture and can corrode.

Never expose vibrators to excessive heat. This could cause a combustible situation with your batteries or simply melt the materials.

Store all your ‘toys’ separately – do not throw them all together in the same drawer. The materials of some adult toys can discolour, mark/stain or leave mildewy-looking marks on other ones. In particular, jelly vibrators and vinyl ones don’t go well together – the jelly appears to ‘warp’. If you keep them all the same drawer, at least make sure that each one is wrapped in its own pouch or container.

Do not keep vibrators where they can collect dust or animal hair, especially so with jelly vibrators that seem to be ‘magnets’ for fluff and airborne particles.

Do store your vibrator and any other toys you might have in a dark and dry place. Some people keep them in a drawer between cotton underwear or other clothing for padding. Keep your vibrator at room temperature; clean your toy thoroughly after each use and remove the batteries.

Store vibrators in a toy bag or pouch or in a special toy box. These storage items are usually satin or velvet or if they’re a box they have some soft material with plush padding on the inside.

If you don’t yet own a vibrator, visit LoveTheMagicWand.com where you’ll find articles, tips and reviews as well as links to the many stores that stock these world best-selling vibrators.

Have you ever looked at something and wondered…”Who invented that? …and why?”

Well, I had one such moment just last week. At my friend’s Hen Party a bright purple vibrator was being passed around in a ‘pass the parcel’ type of game and when it landed in my lap among squeals and giggles – I squinted my eyes a little and thought, “I wonder who invented vibrators….and why!”

I have since discovered that the answer to ‘why’ is not as obvious as you might think and it is far more interesting than the ‘who’!

Once upon a time, in 1883 to be exact, the vibrator was first patented as a medical device by a physician in the UK by the name of Joseph Mortimer Granville. Dr Granville invented this electromechanical, motorised contraption to relieve hysteria in women and by all accounts the device was bulky and not easily portable. Hysteria in women was thought to be due to a lack of sexual intercourse and at the time, medical professionals believed that hysteria lead to the inflammation of the uterus, which then “necessitated the expulsion of fluids to prevent it from wandering” from its proper anatomical ‘home’ and possibly suffocating the woman who ‘housed’ it.

Physicians believed that they had to coax the ‘nomadic’ womb back to its proper place with ‘massage treatments’ and records of hysteria and its ‘manipulation treatments’ date back as far as 2000 BC in Egypt…. so it would appear that this had been going on for centuries.

It appears too that this type of treatment was not seen as sexual and that doing it by hand was tiring work for the medical professional. Not surprisingly then, Dr Granville’s vibrating, motorised contraption was welcomed by many of his colleagues.

The huge potential market for hand-held vibrators as we know them today was first recognised by entrepreneurs with Hamilton Beach of Racine,USA who patented the first hand held vibrator in 1902. The vibrator was the 5th ‘electrical home appliance’ available, after the sewing machine but it came along (please excuse the pun) well before the electric iron and the vacuum cleaner.

In the early 1900s women could mail oder vibrating massagers from advertisements in publications like Needlecraft and Womens Home Companion. Interestingly, a vibrator advertisement dated from 1910 states: “The secret of the ages has been discovered in vibration. Great scientists tell us that we owe not only our health but even our life strength to this wonderful force. Vibration promotes your life and vigour, your strength and beauty. … vibrate your body and make it well. You have no right to be sick…”

Nowadays vibrators that were once dubbed “masturbatory machines” for “sexually dysfunctional females”- are being stocked in stores around the world and of course online too. For example, at sites like LoveTheRabbit.com you’ll find many rabbit habit vibrator articles, information, raves and reviews and links to the many stores that stock them.

Even through the recent recession, sales of vibrator are up 20 percent in the last year. Their use is widespread too, fifty-three percent of U.S. women and nearly half of all men admit having used a vibrator, according to two recent national surveys from Indiana University. It would seem that a lot of people still fear that their womb might ‘migrate’ at any moment – so just to be sure…perhaps it’s time you got yourself a vibrator (or three!) too! You really never know quite when your womb might just up and leave!

Romance is a notion that often escapes us men. Due to the fact that there are no clear explanations of romance men struggle with the concept. Instead romance is a nebulous thing, thus something which females are better accoutered to understand and appreciate. No one knows exactly the reason why this is so, it just is.

Although romance does not have an absolute definition, thankfully it can be described or even enhanced with couples sex toys. A lot of what can be described as romantic are things, actions, and attitudes which women like or find attractive and want in a relationship. Since we are men we will find it hard to step into women’s shoes to find out first- hand what is romantic or not. The presence of the Y-chromosome in our genes virtually guarantees that. Happily, there are some rules which we can follow to overcome this handicap. Try and introduce some sex toys to spice things up!

The first thing we should accept is that there are some small things which are romantic. In other words they contain a certain quality known only to females which make them romantic by themselves.

Reducing the lights will generally work if you are attempting to be more romantic. It makes no real difference how you create the lighting.

Remember birthdays and anniversaries. If you forget any of these important dates, you do so at your peril and the danger of exposing yourself to cold treatment and tears from your special someone for at least a month or when her tantrum subsides, whichever lasts longer. Romance for couples requires you to turn a blind eye to your special woman’s faults.

A small amount of effort can go a positively far way in setting the tone for a romantic evening. Also be thoughtful in what you say and make sure to commend her aswell. If you find yourself in a sticky situation just be honest. These are just a few pointers that can help you get through being romantic enough or at least fake it, to get her to allow you to do your thing every now and then. Good luck!

Maybe you already have a few adult toys and are considering buying another or perhaps you’re literally ‘toying‘ with the idea of buying your very first one – with so many different styles of vibrator on the market – do you know what each one does?

Not all vibrators are created equal and depending on its shape and functions, vibrators are designed to give you either G-spot, clitoral or vaginal stimulation. In the case of Rabbit Vibrators however – you get all three in one. However, before you head to your neighbourhood adult shop or online store, read this rundown on vibrator types to see which one fits your own personal preference the best.

Bullets — Bullet vibrators are small, discreet and can be used all over the body, internally or externally. They are very versatile and they travel easily. They are often really inexpensive and can be enjoyed by women or men. Bullets are usually hard-shelled (either plastic or aluminum) or covered with a soft rubber or jelly coating. Try them on your nipples, labia, clitoris or G-spot (as long as the bullet has a retrieval cord).

Eggs — Egg vibrators are identical to bullets, providing the same types of stimulation. However, an egg vibrator is shaped like—you guessed it—an egg.

Traditional Vibrators — When we talk about a traditional vibrator, we mean your basic hard-shelled plastic vibrator, measuring anywhere from four to eight inches long. These vibrators are meant for targeted external and internal stimulation. They vibrate at multiple speeds, which are usually controlled by a knob at the base of the vibrator. Traditional vibrators can run on anything from AA to C cell batteries. They vary in power and speed, but the hard shell means you feel more vibration with no ‘buffer’.

Realistic Vibrators — A realistic vibrator has a phallic shape, with all the details of a real penis. Realistic vibes vary in size and shape, but are generally made of silicone, jelly or rubber materials, giving them a softer feel. Realistic vibes – which are often referred to as dildos – can be used internally or externally. They vary in vibration speeds and functions (such as rotation) and battery types as well.

Rabbit Vibrators — Rabbit vibrators stimulate your vaginal walls, G-spot and your clitoris, simultaneously. Rabbits have a rotating or oscillating shaft that’s lined with massaging beads or pearls—this is the part you use internally. They also feature vibrating bunny ears that tickle your clitoris on the outside. Vibrator rabbits shot to fame following a Sex and the City episode in which Charlotte becomes a recluse following the aquisition of a rabbit vibrator. At sites such as LoveTheRabbit.com you’ll find many rabbit vibrators articles, information, raves and reviews and links to the stores that stock them.

G-Spot Vibrators — G-spot vibrators were designed to locate and stimulate your G-spot. Some G-spot vibrators are hard and rigid; some are soft and flexible. G-spot vibrators feature a slightly curved or hooked head for targeted stimulation.

Clitoral Stimulators — Some vibrators were designed especially for clitoral stimulation. A number of of these vibrators are wearable and some are shaped to fit over your pubic bone. You can use these discreet vibes during sex or solo play.

Specialty Vibrators — Some vibrators defy categorization. They still vibrate and provide all sorts of stimulation: They just have unique, innovative and spectacular shapes and functions. Some are cone shaped, others are long and pencil thin while others still are very futuristic in their forms and finishes. There is even a range of vibrators that will throb in time to the music on your MP3 player – they are called the OhMiBod – and are powered by your iPod.

Sex toys can henance a relationship – however, they can also be tricky things to incorporate because it can be difficult to know when – and exactly how – to tactfully bring them up in conversation – let alone into your relationship….especially into a long-standing one….

Some people find the introduction of sex toys into a relationship rather daunting because it could lead to feelings of inadequacy on the partner’s side. Unfortunately, this is due to society’s misconceptions as well as due to much cultural and religious ‘imprinting’ – when really, there is absolutely nothing wrong with introducing a bit of spice into any relationship. In actual fact, it can even be an enlightening and satisfying experience, furthering both trust and understanding between partners.

Here is some advice on how, when and where you can broach the subject of sex toys with your partner.

Choosing the right time to chat about introducing sex toys into your sex-life in important. Depending on your relationship’s dynamics, your personality, your level of shyness and many other factors – one of many different timings and settings will work best for you.

If you are shy, then perhaps it’s better if you broach the topic in bed, late at night – in the dark – when no eye contact is required - and you are both relaxed. Alternatively, you may choose to be casual about it and perhaps mention an article you have read (such as this one), a website you stumbled upon, or a conversation you had with friends and ask your partner how s/he would feel about trying a new toy. Some people however simply wait for a spouse’s birthday, Valentine’s Day or Christmas-time and merely gift wrap a sex-toy and hope for the best!

In most relationships however, communication is vital when thinking of introducing a new adult toy for the first time because a huge amount of trust and often reassurance is involved, especially if one partner is apprehensive. So, listen to what your partner thinks and feels, if there is something you wish to try that your partner is uneasy about – start slowly, build up to it, make sure you are both totally at ease with the idea and keep positive.

Maybe, a part of your partner’s apprehension is not so much in using the toy – but in what is involved when actually ‘buying’ the toy – many people conjure images of seedy sex shops in back alleyways in their city’s dodgiest neighbourhood! With that in mind, it’s not surprising that the thought of ’sex-toy shopping’ fills them with dread! But – that is where the anonymity that the Internet gives us all comes in really handy!

So begin your search on the World Wide Web and browse the many sex toy superstores available. You will find many, bright, user-friendly stores that offer a myriad toys – all neatly categorised – and with many gadget and devices, that perhaps you were never even aware of.

An excellent ‘beginner’ toy, that has received rave reviews and has a celebrity following is the Rabbit Vibrator. Ever since Miranda bought a ‘rabbit’ for Charlotte in a Season 1 episode of Sex and the City, sales of the  vibrator rabbit have sharply increased and it is arguably the best-selling vibrator worldwide. This is not surprising given that – what sets the rabbits apart – is the fact that ‘rabbits’ are specifically designed to provide sensational and simultaneous clitoral, g-spot and vaginal stimulation – and have therefore left the more traditional vibrators back in the Middle Ages.

Various vibrator rabbit models are available but thankfully at sites like LovetheRabbit.com you’ll find articles, information, raves and reviews on the best bunny vibrator available and many direct links to the stores  and suppliers that stock them. Once you have chosen and bought your first toy and have had the pleasure of unwrapping your new treasure, you need to set the mood.

Soft lighting and music are the perfect platform to start any sexy evening and when the time is right to introduce your new toy, take it slow and relax into the sensations it gives you and/or your partner.

In addition, ensure that if you need lubrication you have it on hand, there is nothing worse than having to break the ‘magic’ to fumble for something! If you are comfortable with the feelings and sensations that your new toy is giving you – relax and enjoy the experience – however, don’t be surprised if the first time you use one, things are a bit awkward; for example, you may find the settings either too weak or too strong – but don’t worry – with practice you will find the angle and speed that are just right for you.

Finally, always discuss any issues that have arisen – both positive and negative – with your partner and plan how to resolve them or maximise on them. Once you have introduced one toy into your bedroom – there will be nothing to stop you from trying another…and another! Good luck!

Do you want to buy a fleshlight? If the answer is no, then, maybe the answer should be yes. Whether you’re in a relationship or you’re flying through this world solo, fleshlights will make your world a better one.

For years the sex toys industry, operating inversely to the real world, has been marketed and geared towards women. There is probably a dissertation in why sex toys have been marketed and manufactured almost exclusively towards women over the past 20 years, but for now we’ll just acknowledge the point and move on. Chad Chunglo, the co-founder of TooTimid.com, understands where the industry’s main market is, “92% of the products that leave our dock everyday are geared towards women, 70% of which are bought by women between the ages of 25 and 45.”

It’s a strange state of affairs that it’s taken until the end of the milleniums first decade for the industry to spot such a huge gap in the market. Men. Men are known, be it right or wrong, as sex crazed maniacs. Well we certainly do think about sex, I’m sure we all agree on that one, and yet as a gender we’ve never really explored our own solo sexuality. Girls have been discussing ths stuff over glasses of wine and nail painting sessions for millennia, maybe we should talk about it to, but in a more manly way obviously.

Maybe we could talk about our new set fleshlight cases and how they make us feel like a sexual warrior, but we wouldn’t be sipping on wine or painting our nails, we’d be in the changing rooms before a game of rugby (or American “football” for our US readers). We could discuss the many different fleshlight inserts available to make our marathon sessions massaging our man pump feel all the more realistic. We should pat each other on the back, beat our chests, chant, and shout about how we’re free from the constraints of sexual frustration. We don’t need liars, cheats and mercenaries! WE CAN DO THIS OURSELVES.

Dildos have been with us for thousands of years, infact they’ve been around so long that evidence suggests they were used as far back as the Upper Paleolithic period, that’s 10,000  – 40,000 years ago. Ice age ‘batons’ discovered by archaelogists raised more than a few eyebrows so the discoveries were glossed over. As one archaeologist elequently put it, “looking at the size, shape, and — some cases — explicit symbolism of the ice age batons, it seems disingenuous to avoid the most obvious and straightforward interpretation. But it has been avoided.”

Dildos have been around for ever no matter what the bearded history men tell you. So where are the historical references to fleshlights? You can look as hard as you want, you won’t be finding any. Chauvanism and a lack of womens rights probably assured they were never needed and now sexual liberalisation and modern synthetics open the door for the fleshlight to step into the mainstream. Fast forward to the 21st century and you can buy a fleshlight in just about every developed nation. What on earth is it?

The fleshlight is a male sex toy, made of medical and food grade phthalate-free polymers. It’s essentially the inverse of a dildo and opens up the door for a much more authentic feeling male masturbation experience. The fleshlight case houses a soft natural feeling material the substance of which is “a company secret covered by a series of US patents” but according to the patent itself the material is an elastomeric gel. To cut the mumbo jumbo, this thing really feels like a vagina as long as you warm it up and apply lube.

Product evangelists on the company website go one further, they reckon this thing feels better than a real vagina. “I’m one of the few who thinks it’s better than the real thing. I’ve had sex with over 200 women and very few felt this good!” said one satisfied customer.

For thousands of years women have been able to satisfy themselves with dildos, thanks to the modern mechanics of mass production synthetics men can join the narcacistic club. Men and women may soon enjoy sex lives via webcam with increasingly complex sexual toys. Enjoy the future while it lasts.

In times of recession, people stay inside and that results in an upwards trend in sex; Durex are having a bumper year in sales. With less and less money being spent on going out, people are staying in and riding out the recession indoors, maybe it's about time you joined the party.

It's time to invest in making your nights much more exciting. There are plenty of sex toys on offer to spice up your life between the sheets. When people think of sex toys they often think of seedy clubs, private shops, brown paper bags and long overcoats, but it's time to shake free from the shackles of 19th century opression and step into the 21st century. If you've been slow out the starting blocks it's time to start sprinting.

If you're not too keen on going to the highsteet to buy your vibrator then you needn't worry, there are plenty of online solutions to wet your appetite. It’s not just for women – there are now plenty of sex toys for men to choose from, vibrating cock rings, fleshlights, and some things you never knew existed.

If you do decide to venture out to a sex shop, take your partner with you and try your new toy together that night; you'll learn what you like and what you don't for the next time you visit. Here's some top tips on what to look for in a vibrator:

• Get a vibrator that has more options than an iPhone - the more buttons the better.
• Get a variety of sizes, you never know when you might want to get yourself off - at work, at home, in a queue.
• If your vibrator must be small, make a fast and furious small one. Discreetness might be top of your agenda but your pocket rocket has got to be able to step up to the plate when you need it.
• There are so many options out there for you to choose from that you'll probably be dazzled, but whatever you do, just make sure you're have fun.