Survive Your Breakup

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When you first break up with your girlfriend you may still be in doubt that it is really the end of the relationship and want her back. If you are wondering how to *get back with your girlfriend then you will need to make a plan of action.

Accepting that their girlfriend has ended the relationship is something many men find difficult. They hope that she will call and come back, or even that it was a dream and she will be still there in the morning!

There is always a second chance to make another go at a relationship, so if you are asking yourself “How can I get back together with my girlfriend?” now is the time to start planning how you will get her back.

Before you start to plan to win back your ex ask yourself some questions.

• • Do you still love your girlfriend?
• • Do you really want her back?
• • Why do you want your girlfriend back?

Be truly honest with yourself. If you want your girlfriend back because you don’t want to be alone or don’t believe she should have ended the relationship then these are not good reasons to try and get back together with your ex. A relationship renewed only on these grounds is destined to fail again, you have to love your girlfriend.

Once you are perfectly clear on reasons for wanting to get back together with your girlfriend, it is time to start putting your plan together.

• • Do not appear desperate or needy to your ex girlfriend.
  You want your ex girlfriend back, so you need to learn to control your emotions. Do not beg her to come back, don’t cry or rage in front of her. These are natural emotions and feelings that you are experiencing; vent them to friends, family or even a pet! Just not to your girlfriend. Pity is not a good building block for a relationship and by appearing desperate you may even drive her further away.
• • Take time out
  Instead of feeling self pity, take the time away from your ex girlfriend to socialise and network. Forget about relationships in general and have some fun. Learn new skills or brush up on old skills. Do not constantly text, call or e-mail your ex girlfriend. Stalking her will push her further away.
• • Keep communication opportunities open
  While you should not contact your ex girlfriend, this does not mean she will not contact you or remove the possibility that you will both meet up unintentionally. When this happens remain civil and friendly. Make sure you make your ex feel comfortable if she does try to contact you, do not start arguments or become emotional!
• • Analyse what went wrong
  There was obviously some issues that caused the relationship to come to an end. Try to discover what was causing the rows and arguments or which of her needs you were not meeting. Start to work on these issues so that the problems are not repeated. Accept that you may have to make some changes for the relationship to work once again.

Rebuilding a broken relationship does not happen overnight and needs time. These tips will help you start the journey to winning back your ex.

OK, you blew it. Big time. You did something thoughtless or dumb or unforgiveable. Now you want your girlfriend–sorry, EX girlfriend–to come back.

So, what’s your plan? How are you gonna get her back… where she belongs?

Here are 3 tactics that will help… a lot.

Buy Her Roses

Yeah, I know. That sounds like something you’d read in a 1950’s manners book. Lots of men say that sentimental stuff–like flowers–doesn’t work with women in the 21st century. And those guys are DEAD WRONG!

Most women ADORE flowers. And they particularly love it when the men they love think about the gift… and give them their favorite flowers. Something that means a lot to her.

Trust me. If you want to get your girlfriend back… give her special flowers. That won’t be enough, but the first step is to show you really care.

Talk To Her, Openly And Honestly

Let her talk. Don’t interrupt. Don’t offer solutions. Don’t pretend to listen while you watch TV. Listen… like she’s the most fascinating woman on the planet.

And you really want her back… so–for you–you ex girlfriend is the most magnetic person on earth. And after you listen to her… she’ll definitely listen to you. You’ve made her feel loved and special and important… so she’ll return the favor.

Then you’ll both be able to explain–openly, with no anger–the real reasons why you broke up. And you might find ways to overcome those problems. That’s a wonderful second step!

Appreciate Her

This is the critical step in getting your ex girlfriend to come back. She’ll return to you ONLY if you’re the one who satisfies her needs best. Add more and greater value to her life than anybody else does… and she’ll come back to you. If you don’t… she won’t.

Not sure What she wants? Listen to Aretha Franklin. She wants RESPECT.

And she wants to feel appreciated. She did lots of things for you. How often did you say “thanks”. How often did you tell her how much you appreciated everything she did for you? How often did you tell her how much she meant to you?

For most men, the likely answers are “rarely”, “almost never”, and “never”. That’s the real mistake you made. You may think she left because of some other problem… but that lack of appreciation… that lack of RESPECT… is the core problem. Fix that, and all the other problems will fade away like fog in sunshine.

Show her (don’t just talk about it–talk’s cheap; do something) how much you appreciate her… how much your respect her… and how much she means to you… and you’ll get your ex girlfriend back fast.

And more important… you’ll be the sort of tender, caring man who deserves to have such a wonderful woman back in his arms.